He might have some growing up to do. Was he just being nice? It doesn't appear in any feeds, and anyone with a direct link to it will see a message like this one. "If someone texts me, I always make a point to text back. But in doing so, you make him habitual of getting these messages that he doesn't feel the need to ask you these things first. Christie. The problem is, the extra availability has given us has added a level of expectation (and subsequent overthinking) that never used to be there. Shortly after, a former college friend/social media friend reached out to me and asked me on a date. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. Whatever. But before your thumbs spring into action, consider these 14 things: You’re making excuses. This is now the norm in the dating world for either sex. You’ll be better off finding someone who can’t wait to text you first. We recently just broke up.. It's Friday, you haven't heard anything from him, but you don't want to make plans and then have him call. Hey there . So I texted the guy about 2 days after our first date just to say thank you and let him know I had fun since I was so nervous I thought it may have seemed like I didn't. I have been interacting with this guy on social media and we met at friends gatherings a few times . Guys who are interested text back. My girlfriend never texts me back. I've found quite the opposite to be true when it comes to communicating over text message, that it's normally the women who don't text back. Maybe another coffee sometime too" I texted back and said "for sure I always need caffeine :)" Now it's been 2 days and he hasn't responded. She never texted me back because "this might sound silly, but I don't text twice in a row" Met a girl a few weeks ago. Need help with your relationship? Cookies help us deliver our Services. By using our Services or clicking I agree, you agree to our use of cookies. He responded back "It was my pleasure! Time and frequency matters too. Report any rule-breaking behavior to the moderators using the report button. A guy pulling out the excuses early on is always a bad omen. Don’t bother trying to change his mind. It's shitty. I was very anxious about this. He always compliments me and and even friends started to say that we should get together. Because when i text him he will not text me back unless i make a joke. OK, so he said he wanted to make plans this weekend. Now it’s panic stations. When you feel clear and relaxed, it’s much easier to make the right move when it’s needed. I cut out all those smiley-faced emoticons he avoided and texted one-word answers sometimes, just like he would. Share your favorite tips, ask for advice, and encourage others about anything dating. When a guy is afraid of commitment, he will act confusingly, and he will subtly annoy you with things like not texting you first. Before text, if you went a day without hearing from him, that was… normal. Reply December 16, 2015, 10:00 am. It’s great conversation and yet, he just never texts you first. "It can be many reasons. Who knows, if he is a good guy at heart, perhaps he… We had a long conversation about depression and suicide and god. #1 He’s not sure how you feel. So uhm my boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months .. I’m 24 and he is 27. Unless this guy is less than 30 years old. Unforunately, I was about to go on a small vacation, and she was going to take one right after, so we could not meet anytime in the subsequent week. If he was into you, he would have texted you back." This is innocence on both of your sides, but there comes a time you realize that you're the only person who cares enough to text first. Well the only reason him not texting back bothers me is because he sometimes also don’t answer my calls. I have no idea if he’s at work, sleep, or doing tattoos (his side job). Close • Posted by 2 minutes ago. If he’s not pursuing you, it’s time to stop pursuing him. Lucky for us, they took to Reddit … You’ve texted him too much. Cookies help us deliver our Services. If he never texts you first but gladly replies to your texts, he might just be afraid to commit. If he’s into you, it doesn’t matter how busy he is, he’ll take 30 of the 86,400 seconds in a day to reach out to you, even if it’s just to send a quick text. Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! It can not be any simpler than that, but trust me from a guy's point of view, it is NEVER that simple. Thought I might see you in class today but no such luck. Then he only said that he was busy at the moment and he never text back as usual. And believe me, there are guys around the world who share similar feelings when it comes to a girl ignoring their text messages. What do you do if he doesn’t text back? 2. Close • Posted by 8 minutes ago. Why is that and what’s going on in his adorable head? Press J to jump to the feed. If he was kissing you or telling you how amazing you are, that’s probably what he’s still thinking. But then I give myself 10 minutes. A few months ago I became single. Chances are if he leaves you hanging, he's immature and you dodged a bullet anyway. What should I do? Texting in his way showed me just how little he’d been giving me — and I’d been accepting it. I felt like such an idiot for spinning wild tales in my head to try and figure out what was going on. There are many reasons why a guy would be afraid to commit. If you need something right now, call me." Why this guy never texted me ? They must also be able to actually send the text. We had a great date - she actually made moves on me at the end of the date, which was definitely a welcomed changed. Is he not interested? New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast, More posts from the relationship_advice community, Continue browsing in r/relationship_advice. He has already lost his chance with you. I felt so loved and cared about, because most people would just click past it, but he asked why I was sad. That's not the case. I know the first thing you're thinking when someone doesn't reply your text: This guy doesn't respect or care about me. 1. I asked guy I went on a few dates with if he wanted to hook up, we had a great night, he never texted me back [26F, 30M] Dating. Hopefully I'll bump into you again soon! The best way to deal is to stop texting him and never reply if he does get in touch. And the last time we had talked about doing something the next day and he said to let him know if I wanted to...so I texted him and then he made an excuse for why he couldn't. It makes dating harder, but it's the landscape. I called it off for various reasons. Previously he asked me to give him time but the good part is that I don't sleep with a man as he wishes and I take my time so I'm glad that in those 5 months we dated there was no sex. 2. Archived . Eh, not exactly. If a guy a guy makes a date with a woman the guy is already attracted to you, or else why would he even make the date. Guys who aren’t don’t. rdr005 +1 y. I won't hold it against him for an excuse for a next day thing, simply because its short notice. If you stop texting him and he doesn’t reach back out to you, then he’s definitely not worth it. It could just be a genuine matter of procrastination. Guys will ALWAYS need a good reason, a desire, a want, or a need to get back to you. I put it all on him—he had made a choice to cut me out of his life swiftly and mercilessly. Just accept that his behavior around you the last time you were together is probably where he still is emotionally, no matter how many transformations He’s busy, he’s stressed at work, he has a million things going on, blah blah blah. He never texted me to make plans after that and its been a week and a half... Asker +1 y. You can show him that you have value by not responding. He doesn’t deserve a response or an explanation, nor would any communication on your behalf change his view. When he doesn’t text back for days, make sure you follow the steps above to keep your own emotional clarity during this time. Turns out her dad was sick and her phone ran out of batteries at the hospital. 9. So, I 19(M) and this girl F(19) recently got into a relationship. Sorry, this post was deleted by the person who originally posted it. If he never texts back then that silent treatment is your slap in the face to move the hell on. There are guys out there who think that texting is a marathon, not a sprint. Then, he texted me. Is he not interested in a second date? Or he could be worried that if he starts the texting conversation that he will end up having to go back and forth with you all day. He [22/m] never texted me [19/f] back after our first date? Try your best to be kind. It's tactless. Is he not interested? If you don't hear back in another day or two, text him to go do something. Anyway, I accepted and we had a great time. You’re not a priority in his life. I thought he was without a doubt fake, because he never texted unless I texted first. It’s like it’s just too much for their little incapable fingers. He’ll stay there for a year and commute on weekends. I'll let them know I read their message tho and Ive often wondered why I have done that so much and have done it my whole life. They get weird when a woman texts them too much. 1. There are times when it's just not physically possible. By using our Services or clicking I agree, you agree to our use of cookies. There’s nothing more infuriating than waiting for a text that never comes. If he doesn't respond, then just move on because he's not that into you. Even if I am really busy, I will even shoot them a text that says, "Hey, I'm busy, I'll text you later," or I'll give them a call real fast to let them know. Many guys do not want to get into a long winded conversation that lasts all day. Next thing you know, the inbox looks l… Things seem to he going well but my problem is that she never texts me back or maybe texts me about once a day. I’ve been dating this guy for a little over 2 months, kind of in a long distance situation where his company sent him to a plant that is 2 hrs from his home city and also me. He didn’t actually want to talk to you, but he’s too polite and too much of a coward to tell you that you’re wasting your time and he’s never going to date you. It’s given us a whole new way to screw things up by overthinking. Looks like you're using new Reddit on an old browser. He could simply be busy. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast, More posts from the dating_advice community. In this case, the right move when he doesn’t text you back after a week is to move on with your life. He does care but isn't used to this. You text him and he always gets back to you with a smiley or wink face. The site may not work properly if you don't, If you do not update your browser, we suggest you visit, Press J to jump to the feed. If he hasn’t texted you, you can assume that he’s exactly where he was when you last talked. When I was in the thick of it, I felt resentful and wounded when my ex didn’t end up contacting me. You want to know where he is, what's he doing, what did he have for lunch, etc. Online dating—and connecting deeply with people you never would have met otherwise—makes this pretty easy to do. No "I'm not interested," (except in rare cases) it'll be talks about the next date and then they go silent. Text communication says to me, 'Here's some information/a question that can wait until it's convenient for you to get to it.' Guys are pretty simple in many ways. So I texted the guy about 2 days after our first date just to say thank you and let him know I had fun since I was so nervous I thought it may have seemed like I didn't. If it's urgent, send us a message. When I was back in high school (during the Mesozoic era), I texted my gf something like "good morning" and she didn't get back to me for 72 hours. I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. You need to have the confidence to realize that if a guy doesn’t see how great you are, it’s his loss. I said I was sad on my Snapchat story, and he asked why I was sad. Also I dear my healthy first. He's interested but thinks he needs to wait or you will see him as desperate. We rely on user reports to find rule-breaking behavior quickly. He was very clear that it was a date. The reasons I stop calling or texting a girl vary. Close. In reality, he’s probably got a few girls that he’s got texting him and think the exact same thing as you. He’s too polite to say what’s up. My girlfriend never texts me back. He never texted back. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. Thank you! I do that all the time. For example, he never said that he was looking forward to seeing me when he made plans to hang out, so I stopped doing that. Oh we’re both 30 yo. He [22/m] never texted me [19/f] back after our first date? There’s no stability or certainty in the beginning of a relationships. And then 10 minutes turns into 10 hours. Get chicks numbers then never call em or reply to texts. Please keep the rules of r/dating_advice in mind while participating here. Posted by u/[deleted] 4 years ago. There are many reasons he might not have texted back. I literally think I'm going to reply to every single person who sends me something within five minutes. What it means when he never texts you first but always replies happily. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns. You’re not the first person he thinks to text if there’s an emergency, but he … It’s not that he’s annoyed. It can really make you do things you never thought you’d do, like send him more texts to try to get a reply. Here are some of the reasons he’s being such a butt. And as someone who suffers from procrastination with every little task, I can tell you it affects response time, too. He never texted back.